Disheartened, says psychologist and relationship therapist Randy Dellosa.
He says, “Imagine the elation that PNoy must have felt upon learning that Grace wanted to marry him, only to find out that the news report was false. Any guy who experiences this would certainly feel disheartened.”
To keep his spirits up, Dellosa thinks PNoy should consider the circumstances in which Grace issued the denial.
“He should keep in mind that what Grace denied are statements alluded to her by the journalist. This doesn’t mean she doesn’t want to marry PNoy.”
Instead of letting the incident bring them down, Dellosa adds that PNoy and Grace--if ever they officially become a couple--should draw strength from it in the face of gossip and false reports that will continue to hound them.
What about observations that Grace, the antithesis of the silent, very private PNoy, is ill-suited for the President’s character?
Again, one should look at the situation at hand.
“PNoy is probably quiet out of proper decorum required of a president,” Dellosa explains. “It certainly would be inappropriate and distasteful for the President to disclose details of his romantic exploits when he should be attending to issues of national concern. If he carried a position of lesser stature, he would probably be as verbose as Grace in talking about their relationship.”
And since PNoy and Grace have been dating for less than a year, the veteran psychologist thinks they need to bide their time.
“This is a whirlwind romance--a relationship based on high emotions, romantic fantasies and impulsive decisions,” states Dellosa.
Thus, the two should get to know each other more and “build a solid foundation of friendship, intimacy and commitment.”
Meanwhile, hang on tight as PNoy’s love life continues to thrill his constituents –with or without a denial – and pleas of privacy from him and the lady who holds his heart.
By Maridol Rañoa-Bismark | Yahoo! Southeast Asia Newsroom
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